2012年6月8日 星期五

The Happiness Advantage (cont.)

(續四)最後是「社群投資」。跟據哈佛史上一項最長久的研究,追蹤兩百多位研究對象七十年之久,發現最快樂、成功、又富有的人,只有一個共通點,就是社交網絡緊密,也就是「愛」。也就是說,跟家人、朋友、同事越親近的人,越快樂,也越成功及富裕。所以要趕快跟家人分享每天發生的幾件趣事,口出善言心懷感恩,週遭的人就會受到感染,也成為快樂的人!

而大腦裡的「鏡子神經」會讓我們不自覺受週遭情緒感染,因而當有個開心快樂的人進到環境之中,大家都會不自覺地快樂起來。因此,這個「愛的感染力」可以用在各種工作或群體環境,尤其是在越艱難的時期,情感越緊密的團隊,抗壓力與效能都越高。而這種正向情緒的感染力可以至少擴及三層交友圈以外,也就是朋友的朋友的朋友,一般而言大約一千人左右。所以,當我們快樂,這個力量可以感染週遭團隊,讓大家的身心理都更有效能,就會出現「愛的領導力」!

The Happiness Advantage (cont.)

(續三)而為什麼要改掉壞習慣這麼難?研究顯示,意志力是一種越使用,會越消磨殆盡的東西,這也是為什麼越靠禁食減肥,很多人到最後反而暴食變更胖的原因。當作者研究習慣的養成時,發現「20秒法則」,起初要把想養成的習慣擺在隨手可以拿到的地方(降低「起動障礙」到20秒內可及的範圍),並製定簡易規則來防止過多可能導致分心的選擇,持續幾天後就會自然養成。而要剔除惡習,就把「起動障礙」提高,把零食放在很難拿到的地方,或繞一條不會經過飲料店的路。

The Aappiness Advantage (cont.)

(續二)而當有龐大挑戰來臨時,該怎麼辦?
有看過蒙面俠蘇洛電影的人都知道,老蘇洛為了訓練小蘇洛,在地上畫了一個圈圈叫「蘇洛圈」,要他在圈圈裡完成各種劍術、武術、皮鞭等練習,能在圈內擊敗老蘇洛後,再去外面打壞人。因此,可以將龐大挑戰化整為零,先從容易解決的小事著手,再一步步擴大到其他事項。此準則讓作者協助無數的企業高層搞定堅鉅任務。

The Happiness Advantage (cont.)

(續)好笑的是,曾有研究人員付錢請人打三天三夜的俄羅斯方塊,看之後會發生什麼事,結果這些人過幾天後都出現週遭到處看到方塊形狀的錯覺,而且想旋轉它們以吻合地面的缺角~因此人的思想是會被訓練或僵化;

而當追蹤伊拉克戰後返鄉的退伍軍人,不少人出現創傷症候群,但也有人完全沒事,反而更快樂,原因在於這些人用更正面的心態解讀人生。

因此得到結論:我們可以用正向心態為自己洗腦,讓自己跟週遭的人更快樂!

居然沒幾天就看完了The Happiness Advantage這本書

居然沒幾天就看完了無意間在書店發現的The Happiness Advantage這本書,長這麼大第一次看書這麼快,因為實在是太好看了!一定要分享給各位~

作者是一位哈佛講師Shawn Achor,近年做了大量科學研究關於人類的快樂與成功的關聯,巡迴世界各地演講,並諮商無數頂尖企業如何透過快樂的企業文化來提升生產力。

其中歸納出七大簡易又有效的原則:
例如:多數人覺得努力工作->導致成功->才會快樂
甚至有人覺得工作上快樂,就表示不夠認真
但大量研究顯示,事實上是 內心快樂->工作效能高->導致成功
中性或負面情緒會使人記憶力、判斷力、創意、意志力、分析能力、甚至體力等都會降低,而快樂情緒會使上述能力都大幅提升數倍,因而使工作效能翻升;

而對自己的職業到底是工作、事業、還是使命,其實只在於內心的觀點與解讀,因此只要改變看事情的角度,每個人都可以享受工作與人生!

Finished reading The Happiness Advantage!

Finished reading The Happiness Advantage (the fastest ever for me to read a book!). Absolutely the best book I've ever read in my life! Several simple yet extremely powerful techniques to make your life way happier!

Such as job vs. career vs. calling by simply moving the Fulcrum and the Lever in our perceptions;

The "2.9013" Losada Line: the least ratio of praise vs. blame for a positive environment, while 6:1 is the most efficient ratio for group dynamic;

Tetris Effect along with Falling Up that our minds are constantly shaped by our perceptions, and thus it's possible and a great way to brainwash ourselves for happiness to fuel success; simply telling your family 3 good things on daily basis can train our brains more efficiently identify positive incidents around us;

Zorro's circle to help ourselves to deal with enormous challenge by first focusing on small and manageable tasks to build confidence and gain back control;

20-second effect to form a new habit by lowering the activation energy that you can activate it in less than 20-seconds, or to get ourselves out of a bad habit by simply raising the activation energy that you cannot possess it in less than 20-second;

And Social Investment, i.e. "Love", is the single most effective happiness predictor after a 70-year, largest research ever on happiness, the more people engage with their social network, the happier and more successful they are, richer and live longer also!

The last best thing is the Ripple Effect. People are wired biologically to mirror and reflect the environment, so when a positive and happy person around us, we can all feel happier and better, and it can effectively affect 3 degrees of separation, i.e. 1,000 people around us. So using this "Leadership of love" (what a coincident with my theory!), we can all effect people around us in all kinds of settings, making our teams, organizations, families...etc. more productive and happier!

This should be a worldwide bestselling book! It has already changing countless lives in this world, anyway!